For all our mutual attraction and eternal adulation, men and women still require and seek time alone from one another. Women, who have tended to form emotionally stable relationships with other women all their lives, and revel in the opportunity to engage in social activities without men present, have self actuated this into a form of ‘empowerment.’
Men on the other hand, are generally comfortable with or without women around, as long as the game is on, a form of social interaction that is centered on the all important ‘man cave,’ or as one such inhabitant described it, ‘a place that has no appeal to anyone that wears perfume.’
Whereas women have demanded and been granted access to more and more bastions of power once reserved exclusively for men, men have responded by retreating to that which makes them secure in their masculinity; finding a space where they can be men without having to justify it and can spill salsa on the carpet and just keep their foot over it until 2 minutes before they leave.
Previously of course, this ‘man cave’ was originally just that; a cave with primitive men in it. Over the centuries of human evolution, this notion has seen some tweaking, but the core value remains to seek a place reserved for men to relax and relate to one another on levels most women would find offensively straightforward and simplistic; food; beer, sports and hassling your buddies in the confines of a decidedly male environment.
Recently this concept has been expanded to include that eternally male entertainment center, the patio/barbecue/deck. Combining the elements of fire, air, water and soil (though not as an appetizer), the patio lounge with its invitation to grill on the hoof, ice cold beverages, padded chairs and sculpted gardens have become the open air man caves of the 21st century.
Every Saturday or Sunday from early Spring to late Fall, men from every corner of the nation gather to hurl chunks of meat on a sizzling grill and reclaim our legacy of acting like relaxing is hard work.
Communities across the nation exude the odor of seasoned meat on the grill and testosterone in the air, as men open their BBQ scented man caves for all to enjoy.
The beauty of the new man cave is that it’s really just the old cave without the leaky walls and bat guano, and even though we’re willing to share it with all and sundry, it’s nice to know that we can still pack it up and take it to the nearest garage or basement if we wanted to.
We just don’t want to; not just yet.
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I love to eat, read, and have a coffee/tea on our patio in the summer. In winter its great for BBQing
My husband and I love to garden together and any evening we can relax on our deck and admire our work is wonderful!
Cool write up there…
Nothing better than escaping the clutches of my wife than escaping outside to my Bali Hut, equiped with a fridge full of beer!!